I get emails every single day from readers asking for advice on pretty much everything. I figured I would start incorporating those emails into blog posts and sharing my advice with all of you guys, since many of you ask similar questions!
This first one is a question related to balancing social life, work, family, and school. This is my most asked question so I figured it was a good start!
I am 24, I have my own blog, and am currently in grad school working towards my MBA. I find myself struggling to make time for everything in my life. It seems when I put my energy towards one aspect, something else suffers. I can’t seem to balance my school work, my actual job, time with friends and family, my blog, and my relationship. I feel really overwhelmed and was wondering if you had any tips or advice. I hope to hear back from you. Love your blog!
So first of all, what you are feeling is completely normal and we all, at some point, experience this. It’s good to have a lot going on and only means that you are growing both personally and professionally. When you work hard, are passionate about what you do, and wear a lot of different hats – it can feel very overwhelming at times. That being said, there are a few ways that have helped me personally get some structure into my life, that I hope will help you too.
The first thing that I find helps is to use planners!! It’s such a simple thing that our teachers and parents have been telling us to do for years, but it really does help. Start by utilizing planners for specific things. For example you can have a certain planner for only your grad school work, a second one for you to plan out blog posts with, and a third for your personal life (friends/family/relationship). It may seem excessive to have 3 separate planners, but it really helps to break it all down and separate all that you juggle, so it does not seem as overwhelming to you.
Another thing you can do which I have found helps me, is to start making lists! I never did this until I got to college but I find that it makes a big difference. Instead of trying to remember everything I have to do, I write it down. This is anything from grocery lists to appointments to daily to-do lists. Making lists helps so much with prioritizing what needs to get done and what can wait. I also find that visualizing it on paper, instead of letting it pile up in my head, has helped me feel less stressed and more in control of my life.
The final thing I would recommend is to reevaluate your commitments. Although you may not want to “let go” of anything, it might be a good idea to loosen the reigns on certain aspects of your life so that you are not spreading yourself too thin. For example, I know it sucks to let your blog slack, or to skip out on meeting friends for drinks here and there – but you may have to do so not only for your own well being, but also to use that time for nonnegotiable responsibilities like your grad school work. Sacrifices are never fun but sometimes they are crucial in managing your time and balancing everything out!
Keep your head up and remember that all of your responsibilities only mean that you are moving in the right direction. I hope that helps girl! Reach back out if you need anything else xx
If you have any questions of your own, or just want some advice, shoot me an email at lola@thelushspot and I will answer it as soon as possible! Your information is completely confidential and will only stay between me and you. The only thing I may use in a post is your first name – but if you prefer me not to, just specify that in the email.
I will try to do an “Ask Lola” post weekly because, like I mentioned before, you guys email me all the time (which I love!!) so keep the emails coming, and I hope you all are excited for this segment on The Lush Spot!